Sex addiction is defined as an intense obsession with sex and all things related to sex, often spurred on by an unusually high sex drive. If you suspect that either you or a loved one may be struggling with sex addiction, here are some signs to look out for, along with explanations for their presence.
Multiple extramarital affairs
Sex addicts do not gain much satisfaction from having sex. This seems contradictory, but it is because they are obsessed with chasing sexual perfection. While an addict may very well love and care about their partner, they're prone to having several extramarital affairs in order to find the sexual satisfaction they aren't finding from their partner. Please note that the partner has no part in causing this behavior.
Compulsive masturbation
When the sex addict realizes that each sexual experience they share with another person is not quite what they expected, they may try to provide it for themselves. When they realize that masturbation doesn't provide that ultimate satisfaction either, they may begin to compulsively masturbate, chasing that perfect sexual experience. Compulsive masturbation occurs in many addicts, but especially those who cannot easily get away with having multiple one-time partners.
Indulgence in phone and cyber sex
Any sexual activity is better than no sex in the eyes of an addict, so they may turn to phone and cyber sex to fulfill their desires. They may know the person they're doing this with, or they may find this partner through an online ad or a 900 number.
Obsession with Internet Pornography
With every and any type of image, video or chat room on any topic you can imagine and then some, the internet has become the perfect and often times hidden outlet for many addicts. All it takes is a computer with an internet connection and a browser and the sex addict has unlimited access to free and paid for pornography. They can engage in images, videos, chats, email, voice chat, instant messaging, dating services, webcam, live sex shows and any and every fetish. The addict will spend an inordinate amount of time on the internet, staying up late, making excuses just to be on the computer. They will ignore responsibilities, eating, sleeping, tasks, chores, work and other responsibilities.
An obsession with dating through personal ads.
Personal ads, whether through newspaper or computer, are the perfect way for a sex addict to meet their partners. Dates happen pretty immediately this way, and suave and charming sex addicts can often fulfill their urges without ever having to give a follow-up phone call or go on a second date. This somewhat brings us to our next sign...
Multiple one-time partners, who are often anonymous
Addicts do not form typical emotional bonds with their sexual partners, thus leaving nearly no reason to continue having sex with the same person when "someone better" could be out there. Again, the addict may love their partner very much, but the addiction is too powerful to ignore.
The addict may admit these behaviors or flat-out deny that they do these things at all. The addict will often have excuses at the ready, which may vary in their levels of believably. Regardless of this, if you suspect that you or someone you love may be struggling with sex addiction; there are ways to get help. Twelve step programs, therapy sessions, and treatment facilities exist to treat this particular addiction.
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